rndc: connect failed: 127.0.0.1#953: connection refused
If you're expecting a simple rndc or named.reload to work, and it kicks out this ominous error you don't understand, the wiki or newslist solution may mislead you.
Before you do anything else, check to see if named is actually running. There's a few ways to do this:
% ps -aux | grep named
But, hard stopping named and starting it up may be your best beet. On FreeBSD, you can type in /etc/% top (and just look for named)
% /etc/rc.d/named stop
% /etc/rc.d/named start